Speaking Up in a Tricky Situation
We have all had to have conversations with our boss/ manager or head coach that we wish we didn’t have to have. It is never easy addressing a matter like this requires some delicacy on your part.
Here are some tips to make it easier for you to speak up and to increase the likelihood of getting the results you want:
- Keep in mind that any boss should want to know if your productivity is being compromised. It’s in their interest and the interest of the gym to address your concerns. That’s on your side.
- Start by talking to your manager or head coach before you go to the owner. It tends to work best when we try to address an issue directly with the person first, before going over their head—whenever possible.
- Consider having this conversation early in the day so you’re not worrying about it for the full day and building up anxiety.
- Write down what you want to say in advance. Coaches often find that writing their words before speaking is helpful.
- It’s best to be brief, concise, and positive. Choose your battles.
- It’s important to sandwich the conversation by sincerely saying that you have a lot of respect for their work and their competence. Open and close on a positive note.
- Acknowledge that what you need to say is hard to say. Tell them you want to put it all out there before they respond. Then you can take your time, and it will be easier to speak because you gave yourself some breathing room. And remember to breathe!
- Let them know what you are uncomfortable with, without judging anyone. State the facts, and focus on your feelings of discomfort.
- Know that it’s okay if things don’t go smoothly or you forget to say something. You’ve done your best. You can always go back to the conversation later.
- Remember- everyone os busy and has other things to do. Speak your peace- find resolution, let everyone get back to work
