HAPPY GYMNASTS ARE ALL ALIKE. UNHAPPY GYMNASTS ARE UNHAPPY IN THEIR OWN WAY.
Tolstoy posited a similar analogy in his novel Anna Karenina : “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed.
What does a gymnast need to be happy? There are many boxes we must check as coaches to keep a gymnast happy. Fail at one of these and you have an unhappy gymnast. Here is a lesson I learned from Doc Massimo many years ago.
- Firmly establish your authority. A coach will need to wear many hats and evolve through a gymnasts career. From a silly fun loving person to a benevolent dictator then a partnership and finally like a divers ed instructor. Letting the gymnast pick the path and speed but with a foot on the break if necessary.
- Maturely relate to your gymnasts, but not as a peer. You can be likable without being a friend.
- Minimize verbiage. Give them the correction. Not a lecture or speech.
- Have a sense of humor.
- Never utilize sarcasm or negativity.
- Be enthusiastic and encourage the same in the gym.
- Be fair in your treatment of each gymnast. Coach the AGE not the level. The important thing to remember is that if a gymnast is a 10 year old elite or a 10 year old beginner is that they are 10 years old.
- Pay complete attention when working one on one.
- Don’t tell a gymnast that their work is “good” when it isn’t.
- Say “No” without guilt and “Yes” without resentment.
- Pay attention to safety factors and be a consistent spotter.
- Don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry” and “I don’t know”.
- Allot time for gymnasts to socialize. One day I will write a book, “Everything I Ever Wanted to Learn I Learned at the End of the Vault Runway”.
- Provide a forum for listening to your gymnasts. EVERY DAY.
- Continually educate yourself.
- Delegate responsibility to your gymnasts.
- Be personally and emotionally predictable.
- Be a positive role model at all times.
- Motivate and manage team cohesiveness.
- Direct your gymnasts’ spirits’; do not break them!
- Have an overall positive attitude toward gymnastics and life.
This list grows every time I look at it. What would you add? Let me know!
And as a reminder – Coaches, it is important that you find happiness in the gym as well. Find Your Happiness.